男女性功能障碍 -性功能障碍

从性治疗师学习的功课

然而，现代性治疗师已经指出，当性伴在性行为方法上恢复了协调和接纳了不同的性态度时，许多性功能障碍就会消失。首要的一点，这就意味着性功能障碍者不再把自己置于通常的“履行任务的压力”之下。

转变的心态
在性治疗的训练课程中，现在常常要求男女双方在性行为中有意地避免性高潮。例如，可能告诉这对夫妇参与相互的愉悦，但是其中之一一接近性高潮就中断相互的愉悦行为。某些性治疗师甚至要求得更为严格，以至于禁止他们的客户达到性高潮，而与此同时，要求其客户循序渐进地从相互触摸到相互爱抚每天达数小时。这种简单的强化训练课常常产生引人注目的效果。性伴双方在卸除所“履行的职责”后，他们在其生活中第一次可以放弃性快乐了，所以他们可以相互把全部心态从性快乐专注于对方。这种新的心态然后会成为极大增加了的性高潮潜能的源泉。最后，在数周以后，当性反应已经得到恢复的时候，性治疗师就会撤出发生性高潮的禁令，性高潮变得规律起来，受欢迎的体验预期而至，性高潮的发生时机不再成为一个问题。然而，出于同样的原因，性高潮体验现在已经从履行职责转化为随机的选择了。与别的正予产生的愉悦感觉的持续过程比较起来，性高潮就是一个可多可少、可有可无的非紧要的事情了。最主要的是，性伴双方已经认识到了他们不必同时或在每一次性交往的过程中都要达到性高潮。偶尔没有性高潮并不必然会减少幸福感。毕竟，做爱既不是一场战斗也不是一场体育竞赛。成功感或成就感并不取决于幸福的性关系。

Female and Male Sexual Dysfunctions -Sexual Dysfunctions

Some Lessons Learned by Therapists

Modern sex therapists have shown, however, that many sexual dysfunctions disappear when the partners redress the imbalance in their approach and adopt a different attitude. This means, above all, that they no longer put themselves under the usual "pressure to perform".

Changing Attitudes
In therapy programs both the man and the woman are now often asked to deliberately avoid orgasm in their sexual intercourse. For example, the couple may be told to engage in extended mutual pleasuring, but to interrupt their physical contact as soon as either of them approaches orgasm. Some therapists even go so far as to prohibit their clients from reaching orgasm while at the same time ordering them to touch and caress each other for several hours every day. This simple regimen often produces dramatic results. Relieved of their "duty to perform," both partners may, for the first time in their lives, abandon themselves to sexual pleasure, and therefore they may change their whole attitude toward each other. This new attitude then becomes the source of a greatly increased orgasmic potential. Finally, after a few weeks, when the sexual response has been restored and the therapist has lifted the prohibition, orgasm becomes a regular, welcome experience, and its timing is no longer a problem. By the same token, however, this experience has now turned from an obligation into an option. Orgasm is nothing more and nothing less than a delightful interruption of an otherwise continuous process of generating pleasurable sensations. Most importantly, the partners have learned that they do not have to reach orgasm simultaneously or in every sexual encounter. An occasional lack of orgasm need not diminish their happiness. After all, making love is neither a battle nor an athletic competition. Notions of success or achievement have no place in a happy sexual relationship.