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性行为的基本类型
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异性性交: 异性手交
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女对男手交
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挤压技术
有困难适时调整自己性高潮的男性，可以通过由性治疗师常常推荐的方法得到帮助：女方对男方施行手的刺激，直到临近性高潮为止，不过随后要运用“挤压”技术。通过在这里显示的积压阴茎的方法，女方可以协助男方延缓他的性高潮。
(欲知详情，请参见此处)
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因为传统的婚姻指导手册曾经把妻子描绘成性生活的被动者，这些手册也很少包含妻子应该刺激丈夫的性器官的任何建议。但是，许多男性喜欢让他们的阴茎得到触摸和抚弄。的确，再也没有其它的性爱抚会导致男性如此快速地达到性唤起了。当然，想要对男方进行有效的手交刺激（masturbate）的女方，应该确切地问问男方，怎样想让自己握持和抚摸他的阴茎。女方通过把自己的手指涂抹一些唾液或利用一些水基人造润滑液，她常常也能够提升男方的愉悦程度。当男方以这种方式被女方进行手交刺激的时候，如果他达到了性高潮，在可能有另一次勃起之前，正常情况下需要花一些时间来恢复。然而，如果女方有性欲的话，男方仍能够让她获得性满足，显然，刺激方法就是手交和口交了。
一些女性对操弄男性的阴茎感到勉为其难，因为她们认为这样的行为不适合女性，是孩子气十足，或者令人憎恶。她们也可能认为“真正的”男人决不会允许自己以这种方式被利用。不过，这些女性也许会记忆犹新，综观人类的历史，男性恰恰为了这种服务而付钱给妓女，甚至今天一些按摩店仍然从这种服务获得了巨大的收入。
正如已经提及的那样，手交的治疗价值不再受到性学研究者质疑了，而且许多治疗师现在也劝告他们的病人在接受治疗期间练习手交。对于这种劝告的理由其实简简单单：已经学会了用手触摸对方而相互给予性愉悦的男女，通常也准备好了会施行其它大多数形式的性交行为。 |
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Basic Types of Sexual Behavior |
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2. Heterosexual Intercourse: Manual Intercourse |
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Squeeze Technique.
Men who have difficulty timing their orgasms may be helped by a method often recommended by sex therapists: The woman masturbates the man close to orgasm, but then applies the “squeeze”. By squeezing the penis in the way shown in this illustration, a woman can help her partner to delay his orgasm.
(For details, see
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Since the traditional marriage manuals usually described the wife as sexually passive, they also rarely contained any suggestion that she should stimulate the sex organs of her husband. However, many men enjoy having their penises touched and fondled. Indeed, no other caresses lead so quickly to male sexual arousal. A woman who wants to masturbate a man effectively should, of course, ask him exactly how he wants her to hold and stroke his penis. Very often she can also heighten his pleasure by applying some saliva to her fingers or using some water-based artificial lubricant. If the man reaches orgasm while being masturbated in this fashion, he normally needs some time before he can have another erection. Nevertheless, he is still capable of satisfying the woman if she so desires. In this case, the obvious techniques are manual and oral intercourse.
Some women are reluctant to manipulate a man's penis because they believe that such behavior is unfeminine, childish, or wicked. They may also think that no "real" man would ever allow himself to be "used" this way. However, these women would do well to remember that, throughout history, men have paid prostitutes for this very service, and that even today certain massage parlors continue to derive a great deal of income from it.
As already mentioned, for modern sex researchers the therapeutic value of manual intercourse is no longer in doubt, and many therapists now advise their patients to practice it during their treatment. The reason for this advice is simple: A man and a woman who have learned to give each other pleasure by the touch of their hands are usually also well prepared to make the most of all other forms of sexual intercourse. |
