被禁止的性行为与性暴力

性暴力: 强奸: 男性受害人: 帮助受害人 2

既然被另一个男性强奸的男性牵涉到同一性别的两个人，那么，同性恋的问题始终是萦回于事件背后的阴霾。出于这样的原因，许多受害人要自诉这种犯罪会犹豫不决：他们并不想被人贴上“同性恋者”的标签。但是，正如我们一再强调的一样，强奸是一种暴力犯罪，而性取向是一个全然不同的问题。的确，在许多案例，强奸者和受害人都有同性恋的性取向。即使其中一人（或双方）应该是“同性恋者”，这也并不会改变被人身侵犯的基本事实。这种人身侵犯及其对受害人经常造成的伤害后果是在此类犯罪中仅有的与之相关的问题。

即使受害人有时候理解这个问题有困难。与许多女性受害人相同，男性受害人可能会责备自己，可能认为是自己诱发了强奸，或认为自己没有极力反抗。但是，与女性受害人不同的是，一些男性受害人会因自己享受了性接触而责备自己。这是因为，除了被强迫的和受到暴力侵犯的情形以外，他们还可能会体验到某种性反应甚或有射精。当然，一些强奸犯甚至会设法有意让受害人射精，因为让其射精会彻底羞辱受害人。但是，受害人在被强奸的时候的性反应并不意味着他答应或愿意有这种性接触。他只不过出现了某种不由自主的生理反应而已。虽然如此，对于受害人来说，这种经历可能令人十分烦恼和不知所措，并因而凭添了情绪的压力。

Prohibited Sexual Behavior and Sexual Violence

Sexual Violence: Rape: Male Victims: Helping the Victims 2

Since the rape of a male by another male involves persons of the same sex, the issue of homosexuality always hovers in the background. For this reason, many victims are reluctant to report the crime: They do not want to be labeled “homosexual”. However, as we have repeatedly emphasized, rape is a crime of violence, and sexual orientation is an entirely different issue. Indeed, in many cases, both the rapist and the victim have a heterosexual orientation. Even if one of them (or both) should be “gay”, this does not alter the basic fact that an assault has been committed. This assault and its often devastating consequences for the victim are the only relevant issues here.
Even victims have sometimes trouble understanding this. Like many females, male victims may blame themselves for having provoked the rape, or for not having resisted enough. Unlike female victims, however, some males blame themselves for having enjoyed it. This is because, in spite of the circumstances, males may experience some sexual response or may even ejaculate. Indeed, some rapists deliberately try to get their victim to ejaculate, because this makes his humiliation complete. However, a victim’s sexual response during a rape does not mean that he consents to it or enjoys it. He merely shows some involuntary physiological reactions. Even so, the experience may be very disturbing and confusing to the victim and thus increase his emotional stress.