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首次性交合
尽管与其它性交形式比较起来，要开始进行性交合简直是再容易不过了，但是要完全达到相互满足，在任何情况下或任何时候都几乎是不断练习和反复体验的结果。尤其青年人经常趋向于期待太多和过于迫不及待。大多数男孩和女孩在实际发生好久以前就想着、梦着、甚至谈论着他们的第一次性交合，而他们的希望、担心和幻想可能终将会与真实体验有一定的差距，会有几分失望。梦想与现实脱节的一个极好的例子通常是女孩的“破膜（defloration）”的重大价值问题，即女孩的处女膜破裂。当然，处女膜可能因月经棉止血栓、自娱或手交或一些运动的结果而破裂。尽管如此，在大多数女性，处女膜直到被阴茎首次插入阴道之前的那一刻，程度不等地仍会保持完整。许多青少年就这个时刻有夸张和不切实际的观念，事实上，也许预先提心吊胆地担心它的完整性有了一些年头。因而，男孩也许怀疑他的阴茎是否会以任何方式勃起到足够的硬度以穿透这层处女膜，而女孩也许会预料有某种带来疼痛的身体伤害。不过，所有这些担忧都缺乏足够的理由。因为处女膜正常情况下很容易破裂，所以对于男性来说，并不需要使用蛮力和采取粗暴。当然，渐进的、缓慢的和温柔的挺进才是最好的做法。另一方面，女性可能会体验某种不适和有些微的出血，但是不必担心有任何大的疼痛。只有在罕见的例子里，处女膜确实证明过厚而难以穿过，不过医生在他的诊室里通过简单的外科处置就能够轻易地解决这个问题。
处女膜的各种各样形状
女性的处女膜在个体之间存在着差异。它也许几乎完全地封闭着开口，或也许有数个小孔，甚或只有一个大孔。后者也许在实际仍保持童真的时候就已经破裂。
Various shapes of the hymen
The hymen differs from one female to another.
It may almost totally close the vaginal opening, or it may have several small or even one large hole in it.In the latter case, it may seem broken when it is actually still intact. |
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First Coitus
It is easy enough to start coitus, but, as with all other forms of sexual intercourse, complete mutual satisfaction is almost always the result of practice and experience. Young people especially often tend to expect too much too soon. Most boys and girls think, dream, and even talk about their first coitus long before it actually occurs, and their hopes, fears, and fantasies can turn the eventual real experience into something of an anticlimax. A good example is the great significance that is usually attributed to a girl's "defloration", i.e., the rupturing of her hymen. The hymen may, of course, be ruptured by the use of tampons, by masturbation, or as a result of certain athletic activities. Still, in most females it remains more or less intact until that moment when a penis is first inserted into the vagina. Many adolescents have exaggerated and unrealistic ideas about this moment and may, in fact, worry about it years in advance. Thus, a boy may wonder if his penis will ever be hard enough to penetrate the hymen, and a girl may anticipate some painful physical injury. However, none of these worries are justified. There is no need for males to be tough and brutal because the hymen normally ruptures very easily. Indeed, a gradual, slow, and gentle approach is best. Females, on the other hand, may experience some discomfort and slight bleeding, but they need not fear any great pain. Only in very rare cases does the hymen prove to be too thick for penetration, but then a physician can easily solve the problem in his office by a simple surgical procedure. |
