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性行为的基本类型
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异性性交:
生殖器性交
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性交合
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性交合：站位
由日本艺术大师葛饰北斋所绘的丝绸幽默画
(1760-1849年)
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Coitus: Standing position
Humorous
silk scroll
painting by
the great
Japanese
artist
Katushika
Hokusai
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性交合的技巧
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遗憾的是，许多男女因过度关注性高潮而降低了性交合的乐趣。因为男性确信他们能够相对较快地达到性高潮，他们想知道自己是否会坚持到足够时间以满足自己的性伴。另一方面，女性可能担心她们的性高潮来得不够快，或者可能担心她们根本就不会有性高潮。毋庸置疑，这种内心的担忧可能严重地干扰一对夫妻的性交流，甚至使正常的性功能不能正常发挥。
大多数夫妻如果集中更多的注意力在性交合本身的过程，并较少关注性交合的可能结果，他们也许会得到更大的性快乐。不存在什么定律设定性高潮必定是每一次性偶遇的目标。甚至，当一提到做爱，如果人们从根本上想要争取任何特殊的目标，他们就会给自己造成损害。性高潮是分享肉体愉悦的体验过程，而不是孜孜以求的“高峰体验”和“成功的”终点。因而，对于有经验的爱人来说，性张力技巧的积累比性高潮的终极释放要重要得多。性高潮发生在不知不觉的性刺激高峰时才是一件了不得的事情；它并不是必须要为之而战和必定要赢的一件奖品。 |
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Basic Types of Sexual Behavior |
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2.
Heterosexual Intercourse: Genital
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Coitus |
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Techniques of
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Unfortunately, many
men and women diminish their enjoyment
of coitus by an overconcern with orgasm.
Since men know that they can reach
orgasm relatively quickly, they may
wonder whether they will last long
enough to satisfy their partners. Women,
on the other hand, may fear that
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their orgasm will not
come soon enough, or that they will have
no orgasm at all. Needless to say, such
secret worries can seriously interfere
with a couple's communication and even
make normal sexual functioning
impossible.
It
seems that most couples would find
greater sexual happiness if they
concentrated more on the process of
coitus itself and less on its possible
outcome.
There is no law that says orgasm has to
be the goal of every sexual encounter.
Indeed, when it comes to making love,
people do themselves a disservice if
they strive for any specific goal at
all. It is the shared experience of
physical pleasure, not its "climax" or
"successful" finale that makes coitus
worthwhile. Thus, for experienced lovers
the artful build-up of tension is more
important than its eventual release.
Orgasm is simply something that happens
involuntarily at the height of sexual
stimulation; it is not a prize that has
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